Monday, 7 February 2011

when enough is enough and it's time to walk away..

At the moment I feel quite stupid. I can't eat or sleep, all I can do is kick myself for being a naive idiot yet again, with regard to seeing people for what they really are, not who I want so badly to believe they are. I'm coming to realise that it's not likely that people will change, when you first meet them you go
through that first phase of getting to know all the important and lovely things about them, and you take that bit longer to realise that maybe there is more to them. Maybe all those little remarks are aimed at hurting you, maybe they aren't very good at
keeping promises after all, but you keep
on making excuses as it hurts less than seeing the reality, that they just don't care about you. That's how I feel at the moment. There comes a point where it's not possible to keep on making excuses for the way you're being treated, and I'm metally exhausted by it. I'm sick
of doing everything i can to try and help, and then being told it's wrong, or that I wasn't asked to/didn't have to. I think that if someone cared about you, they'd see when you needed help and do what they could, that's how friends work.
I don't think this person is my friend. I think they just like to hurt me, and I can't take it anymore. So day one of leaving them behind starts here, which is going to be difficult as I can't stop caring about them...I don't know what to do :(


  1. I'm sorry to read this and really feel for you, Char. We cannot change people, they have to want to do it themselves. If somebody isn't kind to you you should always walk away. Nobody should be treated like a doormat.
    There's millions of lovely people in the world, don't waste your time on someone who isn't. xxx

  2. Hi sweetie, i'm sorry to read this post. Sometimes its better to leave people behind, its not worth having negative people in your life. I hope you're ok xx

  3. I know it's easier to be the person writing the advice than the one listening to it and I don't want this to be preachy, I really don't.

    I just think that if circumstances were switched and it was me telling you the things that happened yesterday, you'd be telling me to get the hell out of it.

  4. I wish I knew what to say Char, you know where I am x

  5. Char this is awful. You are too nice a person to be getting treated like this. You should not be the one that is upset or hurt by them. My advice would be walk away. It isn't worth the heartache. Big hugs. x

  6. Totally agree with everything above, walk away, I've been there too.
    Hugs to you my love
    Kandi x

  7. Hey love. Based on the fact that this has now been, evidently, really troubling you for a while, maybe it is time to break. You decide and be strong.
    Thanks for your comment on my blog - in the hope that it offers some reassurance, I dealt with an awkward situation yesterday (I hope!) that has been stressing me severely and last night I slept pretty much solidly for the first time in ages. For 11 hours. You can do