Saturday, 9 August 2014
This post has been taking up a lot of my thoughts this week. When Penny first mentioned this project, I definitely wanted to support it. And I still do. I just don't know that I can do a part of it.
I've just spent a week away running a large-scale Brownie camp, and it has been wonderful to spend several days not having to worry about what I look like, and just to focus on having fun. I'm not saying that I dress to impress anyone - in my day to day life I choose the things I want to wear etc - but the pressures I feel from general society seem to infiltrate my every waking thought. Every day, I look in the mirror and see the things I hate about myself. My size, my shape, my horrible feet, my huge nose. The list is endless. I look at other people, be it in the street, at the gym or in the supermarket, and I find myself constantly comparing myself to other people and coming up short. My hair isn't as nice as that lady, if only I had skinny legs like her, if only I had bigger boobs, no stretch marks. The list is truly endless.
However, thinking about camp got me thinking about the Brownies who attended. These girls, who are aged between 7 and 10 and how I would hate to think that they would grow up with these fears and insecurities. But how do we do that, with the media, and even more sadly, the general public, giving us an impossible ideal body size, shape, etc and making it commonplace to comment on others' appearances?
Twin Mummy, who blogs over here at Twin Mummy and Daddy.
A new blog to me, the first thing which struck me was Twin Mummy's pretty face and lovely smile. She writes about her IVF journey and parenting her twin girls. I love the photography and the fact that it is obvious with every post she writes, just how much she loves her daughters. Her writing makes me feel warm and happy. Go over there and show her some love!!
I'm not even sure where to start with the next part of the challenge, so I'm going to move on to step 3 which is about embracing the #bodyUNashamed outlook on life. I like the idea of making sure that I compliment someone every day, as one way of getting on board with this. I do try and make a point of telling someone when I think they look great, or their dress is lovely, or whatever, but I'm going to make sure that I do it more often in future.
The next thing Penny asks us to do is to make a stand, whenever we see or read anything which is not positive about people's bodies and shapes. I won't stand there and let it pass, and will be sure to call the writer up on it as I don't believe anyone but you has the right to judge your body. I think it's an important lesson for young girls to stand up to the things which they know and think are wrong. Like body shaming.
I'm hoping that if I adopt this approach to the negative things I see written about bodies, maybe one day my way of thinking will change and I might be less negative about myself, because at present there is not one thing I could list that I like about myself and it's something which really affects me on a daily basis.
Will you get involved in Penny's quest to become #bodyUNashamed? We will be having Twitter chats in the future, I'm sure.