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Friday, 19 September 2014

Friday Favourites 113..


This week's wishlist is in response to my being in a bit lot of a panic. I'm off to a spa for a couple of days next week - a lovely treat, you'd think (and I do agree, it's a really nice gift to have received), but it's put me in a total panic.

It's nothing new that I have absolutely no body confidence at all. I'm not convinced that this stress and panic is outweighing the relaxation that I should feel when we get there, as I'm really not convinced I can be there, in a swimsuit, relaxing. Those things just don't go hand in hand for me, so much so that I turned down a holiday earlier in the year because I knew I'd have to wear a swimsuit and I knew I wouldn't be able to do it.

I swim, functionally, most days. I do have to wear a swimsuit for this, of course. It's a faded, stretched and tatty navy one and I'm not sure it's the sort of thing you wear to a spa day. It doesn't really fit me anymore, due to the stretch, but it's still in one piece, so I make do with it at the moment because of how much swimwear shopping stresses me out. I manage to do the swimsuit thing at my normal gym because it's usually very early morning, and there's generally nobody else there. Plus, it's a short shuffle from the changing room to the pool steps, so I can get in, arms crossed in front of my horrible body, without anyone having to see me.

But I don't think that suit is going to cut it. So here are some other options, which are apparently more the kind of thing that people wear at a spa day:
For Luna Polka Bikini
001: For Luna Polka Dot Retro Bikini, £65


ASOS Lotus Longline Bikini
002: ASOS Lotus Flower Bikini top £8, + Bottoms £16
George Leopard Swimsuit
003: George Leopard Print Bodysculpt Swimsuit, £14


Motel Green Longline Bikini
004: Motel Longline Bikini Top, £14 + High Waist Brief, £10

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005: Miraclesuit Polka Dot Caliente Swimsuit, £124
I know that retro shapes are considered the most flattering for curvy folk. I have more curves than I would like to admit around my hips, bum and thighs. I'm also not a huge fan of my stomach, despite the hundreds of crunches and sit ups I do every week. So it's likely that even though the bikinis are the prettiest, in my opinion (that For Luna one is beautiful) that I'll be going with a full swimsuit - in fact, I'm glad that I've just spotted this polka dot Miraclesuit one; Simply Beach might have saved the day again!

What tips do you have for buying swimwear? What would you wear to a spa day? I'm not even convinced I'm brave enough to go.

19 comments:

  1. Lovely swimsuit choices Char. I know it's hard for anybody to gain a rational sense of perspective about their own body as we always focus on our own insecurities but please know that from an outside perspective, you are in great shape. You're slim and you look great, your figure isn't horrible at all. You look after yourself by exercising and it's admirable, I wish I did that. I know of course body image is incredibly personal so those comments won't make you feel more comfortable but I just wanted to say because it would feel wrong not to.

    I've never been to a spa weekend but the situation reminds me of that episode of SATC where Charlotte is too embarrassed to go into the sauna with the other girls. Whilst it is a scary situation (my personal fear would be going there sans-makeup, I have a very similar attitude towards that as you do about swimwear because I have terrible, terrible skin) it's important to remember that most of the time you'd surely still be covered up with a towel or robe, and even when you are in a swimsuit you won't be the only one, that there will be people of all shapes and sizes there, not really paying attention to anyone else's figure. It sounds like a nice experience, you should certainly consider going if you feel up to it xx

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    1. I am going to try to go, even if I just take my horrid baggy gym swimsuit. I think it would do me good to relax and get away from work for a couple of days as I've been so incredibly stressed out lately.

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  2. I love the green motel one!
    My tip, try them on. I always think that I'm going to look far worse in swimwear than I actually do. As long as it's a good fit, you'll be fine.
    I wish you could see what a lovely figure you have and that you could be happy in your own skin.
    Good luck, hope you find one you're really happy with.

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    1. Thank you, I've tried a few suits on now but I'm not sure that it's helping.

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  3. The green print one is a favourite - or maybe the yellow - both?

    Hannah's comment above is so beautiful and sums it up - if you feel up to it, go, and you'll have a fantastic time.

    xoxo

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    1. I tried the green and yellow on but have sent them both back - not flattering!!

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  4. polka dot bikini is my favourite, i absolutely hate wearing a bikini/swimming costume/going swimming but i suppose once you're having a good time it doesn't matter! xx

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    1. I really like the polka dot bikini - I tried it on and it's not perfect but I think it's the best I've tried, so it's a possibility.

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  5. I hate low cut stuff. My black polka dot one is great as it's a bit more of a swimdress so covers my bum etc up. Have you considered a swim dress?
    To be honest, from what you say, your body sounds like mine in terms of shape and I know we are a similar size. I really can understand your anxiety but I think you are beautiful even if you don't! X

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    1. I've not seen any swim dresses, but will definitely have a look as that sounds like it could be the answer.

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  6. I'm sorry you're feeling so worried about the spa day. I've never been to a spa (well, I went for a pedicure in one once), but I've been so self-conscious and embarrassed about wearing a bathing suit in public for as long as I can remember, to the point the fear has made me sick to my stomach. I can totally get how you must be feeling and it's horrible feeling like that.

    I just wanted to say that you really have a gorgeous figure; it's not horrible at all! You're slim, you're in proportion, and you have legs to die for! You always look lovely! I know how hard it is to believe compliments from others when you hate what you see in the mirror, but honestly, you look amazing!

    When you're at the spa, you should be able to control how much of your body is on show, and choose the treatments which you're most comfortable with having. You should be able to cover up in a robe for many of them. Hopefully you'll be having such a good time with friends that you'll be able to relax and feel at ease. Don't do anything you're really not comfortable with, but also remember your friends are likely to be worrying about their body hang-ups, too! Almost all women do, and we just don't realise it.

    I think the polka dot one-piece would look amazing on you! There's nothing like some new clothes and polka dots to give your confidence a little boost! xx

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    1. That's how I feel when I see myslef in the mirror - sick to the stomach. :(
      I love the polka dot one -piece but it's a little out of my budget. I'll keep looking, though!

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  7. I love the two floral bikinis although i'm not sure how flattering the high waistbands would be in real life. I'm always shy about the idea of getting undressed in front of others too. I think everyone is to a certain or lesser extent. I wish we could all stay carefree like babies! X

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  8. I think you have a lovely figure, based on the photos you post here. A retro style one piece is probably a good idea, or maybe a tankini? Or, I saw a girl recently wearing a beautiful bikini with the most amazing high waisted bottoms. They literally came up to her belly button, thus covering her tummy, but they have her a fabulous hourglass shape because she had hips. And she had twins that looked about 2 or 3 months old, so I bet she was feeling less than confident, yet she looked amazing. I wish I'd been brave enough to ask her where she got it.

    As Hannah says above though, most of the time you'll be swaddled in a robe. I have done spa days and never seen anyone lounging in just their swimwear. Go for treatments such as manis and pedis, or facials, if you are uncomfortable with massages, and avoid the sauna, but use the jacuzzi and pool.

    I hope you manage to go, and that you enjoy it. X

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    1. Oh, a tankini might be a good idea. I've been looking for some longer retro suits, with the slight legs in them, i used to have one and it hid the top of my thighs which was helpful.

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  9. Get the asos yellow one! It's gorgeous.
    The amount of grief I went through when I went on a beach holiday at Easter... Buying bikinis, returning bikinis, endless internet browsing...min the end I wore my old ones I've had forever. Now they are ingrained in my body as I got stupid and sunburnt lol! Enjoy the spa :)

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    1. I did try the yellow one but I wasn't sure about it - too much of my horrid flesh on show :(

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  10. They're all lovely, I'd go for a swimsuit rather than bikini if you're self conscious of your tummy and you'll possibly get more wear out of it. I'm just gearing up to start back at physio, had to shave my legs for the first time in months today! Have NOTHING to wear, so it's going to have to be comfy dress and leggings...not got anything flat for my feet! Dreading it.

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